Interdependence is mutual dependence between things.

This mutual reliance can take place in business partnerships, communities, the natural world, with pets, with friends, and with romantic partners. An interdependent relationship is one where both partners recognize the importance of their bond while having a solid sense of who they are as individuals.

Things are interconnected. We need each other, and hyper-independence can be a trauma response.

However, interdependence is different from codependency.

A codependent relationship may have a “giver” and a “taker.” A codependent person may act submissive, needy, clingy, or try to control others. This can be due to low self-esteem, people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, or caretaking. Feeling secure in yourself and in your partnerships is a key to healing.

It can be more complicated to manage a relationship with someone who has an addiction or mental illness.

A strategy called prodependence allows caregivers to love unconditionally while simultaneously developing healthy boundaries. In a prodependent relationship, you may offer help when a loved one needs it, but you won’t do tasks that the loved one should be managing for themselves.

Strive for a balance between self and others. When partners feel valued, a relationship becomes a safe place where a couple can be interdependent. They know that they’re not alone, can turn toward each other, and feel secure.

Here are some healthy features:

• Active listening
• Healthy boundaries
• Personal interests
• Communication
• Personal responsibility
• Being open, vulnerable, safe